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July 19, 2007
The Right Asian Guy For The Job
Since I've got a one track mind, the whole racial dating thing has been weighing heavily on my mind. I'm from good ol' multicultural Canada - in fact, I'm from a part of the country which has one of the most diverse ethnic populations in North America. Something like 48 percent of the male population in my hometown are first generation immigrants. Looking for an Asian guy is ridiculously easy over there, and websites designed to help Asian dating come along is almost redundant. Still, there's an exotic connotation amongst the European population when they're thinking Asia - while the region doesn't seem as baffling and foreign as it would if you were from, say, Saskatoon, I wonder if there's this crazy foreign experience that people (well, white people) expect when they date an Asian person.
I personally doubt it. In my years of living in this mosaic society of ours, not one girl has ever indicated that they prefer to date Asians (or if they're even looking for vicarious thrills when they date outside their cultural/ethnic community). Finding a dream girl or guy is usually dependant on whether two people "click" or not. They share a deeper bond, a bond that's a little more meaningful than "Asian guys are hot", or "I like his shoes" (or whatever shallow sentiment that you can think of).
On the other hand, I've also got a certain (white) friend of mine who has a theory about white guys who date Asian girls EXCLUSIVELY due to their closeted homosexuality. This friend of mine, who we'll call Timmy, believes that these guys date Asian girls due to their more pronounced femininity to compensate for their lack of testosterone. There's so many ways that this theory would (understandably) make people angry - grotesque stereotypes, generalizations etc. But I think that this theory shows that a lot of white people still have these built-in perceptions of the Orient.
I don't think that these stereotypes can possibly survive for long, especially in a country where multiculturalism is on the rise. No matter what ethnic background you hail from, getting a date is fantastic, being dumped sucks, etc and no cultural divide is gonna change that. Heck, I don't think I could come up with an all-encompassing "Canadian identity", and my family has been in this country for generations! Let people date who they want to date, and cultural barriers will continue to fall away.
Posted by Glen at July 19, 2007 2:41 AM
