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June 18, 2007
The Troubles of a Hot Wife
Married life isn't easy, especially when you're not the one who's married. Astute readers might think that I'm not making sense, and that I'm babbling incoherently again. But it's true - when one is attracted to a woman who's spoken for, marriage is one heck of an impediment. The attraction of someone you think of as a hot wife might be based on the marriage itself - the temptations of forbidden fruit, etc etc. But it's a much greater kick in the emotional teeth when you're in love with someone for genuine reasons, only to have those emotions dismissed for whatever reason. You might be thinking that you should be Mr Right, but you would be wrong. It would be better to hit up one of the many sex dating sites, like Adult Friend Finder, than to walk this road. But of course you won't.
It's actually an easier situation when the love is unrequited. Cliches like "better to have loved and lost than not loved at all" make a bit of sense in this case - you love her, she doesn't love you, case closed. Rejection sucks, but when there's no interest here, there ain't too much that can be done. The fact that the woman is married kind of seals that deal. Hopefully in time that love will grow into affection, and some kind of friendship will evolve out of the situation.
However, what if the love IS requited? Now you've got a sticky situation (no pun intended) on your hands. It should be noted that Cupids Blog doesn't support infidelity, but that's easier said than done when compulsive love is involved. Of course, you can convince yourselves that this is fated to be, true love waits outside the bounds of matrimony, and that she married the wrong guy. If that's the case, then you can sit back and enjoy a nice long messy divorce. Sarcasm aside, marriages are not necessarily rock solid enterprises anyway, and in some cases a marriage break-up might be the best thing to happen to the "happily" betrothed pair. Being the homewrecker is never an enviable position, but sometimes it's necessary.
Alternatively, there could be zero love between a wife and her lover, just good old fashioned lust. Unless the thought of sneaking into motel rooms in the middle of the afternoon turns you on, you might want to leave this option to the soap operas. It's a lot of drama that no one needs, and let's face it - there are plenty of attractive single people out there that don't have that kind of moral baggage. Pining after the unattainable isn't pleasant, but neither is letting your hormones dominate your life. Just because celebrities go through marriages and affairs the way other people go though a bag of pretzels doesn't mean you should follow suit.
Posted by Glen at June 18, 2007 2:07 AM
