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March 10, 2006
Too Far Away?
How far is too far away for dating? A friend was chatting with a guy on a military dating site who lives about two hours away from her. She’s not sure if she likes him. He’s cute, she says, but she’s just not sure the connection is there as of yet . . . but it could be.
In order to really get an idea of whether or not they’re a match, she’s going to meet up with him. And due to some circumstances, she’s going to have to be the one that travels. So here we are, at the moment where she’d deciding whether or not to take the plunge. She’s already done the math in the back of her head, taking the amount of dates she’s had, subtracting the amount of 1st dates that never went to a second and then subtracting amount of 2nd and 3rd dates she’s had that didn’t end up in at least a small relationship. There’s she left with her odds – and they’re not pretty. Then she has to add that there’s four hours that will be gone from her life if she has to make the trip. There’s also wear-and-tear on the car and gas to get out there, which isn’t exactly cheap these days, and she has to spend this all on a maybe – a long-shot. Having mounted the case, I told her that she needs to get in her car and drive if only for the simple reason that one bad date is bad enough, but missing out on a possible connection that lasts a lifetime is a greater risk by far. Drive girl, drive!
Posted by cup1d666 at March 10, 2006 8:26 AM
Comments
Seems like when I have had to do the far away thing, that I lost interest more quickly.
Andy A.
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Posted by: Andy at March 12, 2006 11:53 PM
wow, i thought for a second you were referring to my blog! i'm in the same perdicament right now. still teetering on the distance thing....maybe. ;-)
Posted by: tidesin at March 13, 2006 5:27 PM
This is an interesting situation, and one that I'm extremely familiar with. Me and my girlfriend started dating a week before she moved to France for a year (I was in Canada at the time). It worried me at first, but as time went on, I realized that we were getting to know eachother better than if we lived closer together. I found it extremely positive to learn about eachother's personality types before engaging in much of a physical relationship. It was a year and a half before we moved to the same city together, but moving together was the true test. Because we knew eachother so well by this point, things couldn't be better now that we are in the same place. It was definitely worth the wait. If there is something there, defintely try to wait things out, and get to know eachother before getting serious physically.
Posted by: Braden at March 20, 2006 10:29 AM
