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February 20, 2008
What Makes That Magic Match?
It's so hard to predict which two people will hit it off that sometimes I wonder if there is really any rhyme or reason to the whole thing. When you, for example, hire a new employee you look for someone with the right attitude, the right skills and certain qualities that you think make them suitable for the position, but imagine doing that for romantic relationships? You can meet someone who, on paper, seems to be exactly what you're looking for and yet you barely connect with them. That magic match is hard to find and harder to predict. That said, given how many relationships seem to go downhill after the first few months, I think that matchmaking systems might be a little more reliable than our initial inclinations.
I know that most people are really looking for a magic match, that chance meeting that becomes the start of a long relationship. If we're honest, though, I think that most of our chance meetings, however exciting they may be, usually don't last long or end that well. I'm a big proponent of trying to learn from past mistakes so I'm starting to think that looking into what makes a good love match test might be a good way to spend some time.
Now, I realize that some of you might think that's taking some of the "romance" out of dating, but I'd argue that using astrology for dating does the same thing, only this makes a lot more sense.
But I digress... The thing that really got me thinking about all this was realizing how many people that I know and like rubbed me the wrong way when I first met them. When my best friend and I met, we hated each other, but since we were taking a lot of the same courses together we had to spend a lot of time together and the rest, as they say, is history. This sort of thing happens a lot with most of our relationships. So, why is it that when it comes to romance, if we don't feel that initial attraction, we tend to assume it won't happen? In the rest of our lives we're rational and learn to appreciate people, but with romance we expect everything to just click right at the beginning and when that doesn't happen we don't even explore the possibilities.
Now, the thing about most of the people I've disliked at first, but gotten to like later, is that we usually realize we actually have a lot in common. That our resumes, so to speak, would compliment each other. So, since my first impressions of people aren't always reliable, I think I'm going to find someone that, at least on paper, looks right for me and gives the relationship enough time to grow. Admittedly, it's just an experiment, but I think it might pay off.
Posted by Leon at February 20, 2008 2:15 AM
