Cupids Dating Blog

Sure, I know what you're thinking: some guy talking about how he met a cute, sexy girl and he has the nerve to say that things are hard. Trust me, I don't mean to sound like I'm complaining. I'm just nervous and that happens to the best of us, or so I keep telling myself. I don't want this date to be turned into something that will be added to my list of first date tips in the form of cautionary tales.

Although, to be fair, I'm already out of the woods on that score. We went out for coffee about a week ago, so I suppose this is technically the second date. Still, I think I'm more nervous this time. In a real way, there isn’t a lot riding on a first date. I mean, sure, it can make or break things, but since you're really just finding out whether or not you're interested in each other, you haven't invested that much emotion in whether or not it goes well.

It's not like I've gone and fallen in love or anything. Obviously, we're still just at the causal dating stage and I don't even know her that well. That said, I'm a bit taken with her and we had a lot of fun the last time we met up. I just don't want to screw things up.

The last time we met, I'd just had a really great day. Things were flying along at work, I'd just gotten a raise... I was in the right frame of mind to meet someone and make a good impression. I can't always do that. Sometimes I'm on the quiet side and when I try to force myself to be social I don't come off well.

With people I've known for a while, this quirk of mine doesn't matter so much. Either they know me well enough not to judge me by it or they'll forgive me for canceling plans. With someone new, it's hard to cancel plans without looking rude and you can't really expect them to give you the benefit of the doubt. I just wish I could think of something fun to do that would take the pressure off a little.