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November 1, 2007
Why Dating Wealthy Makes Sense
Dating wealthy sounds good doesn't it? The only way to become "old money," as they say, is to marry someone that has old money. Even then I'm not sure they let you in the club. I think marrying rich, though, is one of those fantasies that has a lot more to do with wanting to win the lottery than it does with romance. If it ever happened I'd probably spend most of my time feeling self-conscious about not pulling my own weight. Ironically though, that self consciousness is exactly why wealthy dating is starting to make sense to me.
Money problems cause all kinds of other problems. They spoil the mood, keep you distracted, stressed out and worried. They make it really hard to stay in a good mood, you start getting short tempered and pretty soon you're no fun to be around. There is just no way all the added stress can be good for a relationship. That said, I'm not saying the solution is to go out looking to meet wealthy women so you can pass the buck. It's quite the opposite really.
Can you imagine asking for help like that? Self-conscious doesn't begin to describe it. You'd feel guilty and you'd start feeling like a dependent. Resentment would probably follow and things would go downhill from there.
If you are the one doing the lending, things aren't much better. You'd have to start wondering if the other person is taking advantage of you. It's a lose/lose situation. It's these kinds of dynamics that make for bad relationships.
It seems to me dating wealthy is about equality. If you care about someone and they're having trouble, it's natural that you'd want to help them out. And we all have bad days once in a while and need a hand. I'd be lying if I said I kick a rich woman out of bed or anything. I'm just saying that, for the most part, you have to be on equal footing. The help has to go both ways.
The idea behind dating wealthy should be to find someone who you're on equal footing with, who's at the same place in their lives. That way you can move forward without the confusion over money and mixed emotions getting in the way.
Posted by Leon at November 1, 2007 2:19 AM
