August 14, 2007
Love Is A Battlefield
At least, according to the Pat Benatar song, I'm always vacillating between believing romance takes work and if you stop looking for it, it will simply come your way. As you know by now, I spend loads of time soul searching. It's seldom about meeting the one, but becoming the one for myself. I always figure, if I can just get my act together on my own, the romance will follow naturally.
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April 17, 2007
More Than One Deaf Cutie
I find that something that seems a relative rarity suddenly seems to pop up in front of your face at a rapidly recurring pace. I've heard various theories of how the human mind has a tendency to notice patterns in events that are otherwise random. Sometimes what we assume is unlikely is actually commonplace and other times what we believe can't be coincidence is easily just that. At any rate, in my city lately on the subway and out on the town in restaurants, bars and clubs, I've noticed quite a few people communicating using sign language.
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April 13, 2007
Kissing You
Another long weekend has just flow by with parties and clubs. I keep reminding myself that at 35 that I should behave slightly more responsibly than I have done so in the past. In a way, I guess I do act slightly more mature, since I do at least respect my limits slightly better than I once did. However, the bar wasn't set so high in my youth.
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March 20, 2007
I Want To Love You
Last week, I passed by one of my exes on the street and not a word was exchanged. I was on my way to get a drink at a place that we used to go to together in fact we even met there the first time. Later on, I think I possibly saw said former semi-serious fling skulking about the same bar, checking to see from across the room, if I was up to anything with anyone else. I wasn't, but I did pretend to be having the time of my life, even though I was just chilling out.
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March 13, 2007
Sexy Kiss?
I've made it sound as if I've been living my life as a total monk lately. However, to translate a popular French Canadian phrase to describe the physical needs that most people have regardless of sometimes wanting more or less in the romance department, I'm not made of wood. Nevertheless, as an adult, I think we all at times try to approach sexuality sometimes as if we're so very continental. In fact, we all have feelings that can be hurt no matter how detached we might like to be.
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February 28, 2007
How to Get Over a Relationship
Back on February 7, I turned 35. Someone famous born on the some day, albeit 150 years before me, was Charles Dickens. I tried reading one of his books for independent study project in high school but cheated and watched a videotape of miniseries based Great Expectations instead. Nevertheless, between the video and some Cliffs Notes, I perused, I feel as if I actually remember Mr. Dickens actual Dickensian prose.
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February 20, 2007
Divine Romance
I've done much soul searching in the last few weeks. I mean first I turned 35 the day after my late father's birthday and then of course, there was Valentine's Day. If you know anything about my dating life, it peaks in summer, slowly dies off before Christmas and fades into oblivion during the darkest part of winter. Nevertheless, I suppose I have lots of time to meet the one.
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January 22, 2007
Avoiding the Parent Trap
Growing up, I spent more time around adults than I did with people my own age. That's why perhaps when I was in my twenties I really wanted to grow up fast. I had a couple exes that were considerably older if not wiser than I was. Nevertheless, having dated supposedly more mature or at least more experienced individuals taught me some valuable lessons.
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January 12, 2007
Sleeping in the New Year
I successfully made it through New Year's Eve without smoking cigarettes. I didn't do so well over Christmas when I had at least two or three. I must admit if I made it through New Year's it was mostly because I went to a horrible party where I didn't have much fun. I had enjoyed a good dinner with my best friend and her boyfriend to which I supplied some red wine.
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January 11, 2007
How Would You Propose Proposing?
I mentioned last week that a woman recently got engaged. She mentioned was that her boyfriend's brother asked her if she'd seen her ring several days before the question was popped. I guess she was annoyed that she knew in advance, even though the brother didn't say for sure it was an engagement ring. She personally would have liked it to be a real surprise but some girls might have appreciated the heads up.
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January 8, 2007
Old Acquaintance Is Unforgettably Late
Christmas dinner went about as well as was expected. I went to the home of my friend's boyfriend's family. His ex-girlfriend from many years back was there with a date, although she arrived several hours late. I thought my pal was going to blow a gasket from what I took to be a slightly passive-aggressive move on the part of her man's ex. It simply reminded me of home, since my eldest sister never arrives on time. It's her unsubtle sign of spite for my sister whom she considers mother's favorite.
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December 19, 2006
Single Will Rock
I'm single for the holidays for the first time in a couple of years. I don't mind so much. I've always dated individuals with bah, humbug attitudes anyway so I've grown jaded over the meaning of it all. I was brought up to believe in the religious reason for the season, as an adult with secular views Christmas seems artificial sometimes.
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December 13, 2006
Easy to Trace Players Lose Face
My friend that's no longer single met her boyfriend online. She did of course go on several dates that didn't pan out. I would agree with her that sometimes spending a lot of time online chatting doesn't always clear up what you're going to be encountering face-to-face. Nevertheless, I bring her up as an example for a different reason, mainly online investigations.
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December 6, 2006
Hope Lives Vicariously
Have you ever noticed how people change when they get into a relationship? You know the friends who never call you once they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend for instance. I'm one of those folks so now that one of my best friends has moved in with someone and never calls anymore, I can't complain since I've done the same thing many times over. There's one major difference, though: my relationships normally only last a few months. This one my friend has found might just be the one.
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November 29, 2006
First Impressions Scratch My Surface
If I've met someone online, I've looked for individuals who like myself, weren't sure if they were looking for "the one" or just someone with whom to share some casual conversation, maybe a movie or dinner before deciding where things might lead. There's a reason why I started avoiding headlines such as, "Looking for Mr. Right" or "Only interested in long-term."
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November 28, 2006
Breaking Up in Berlin
I grew up in a small town with a very German heritage. When I moved to another city to go to university, I lived with a high school buddy who came over from Germany when we were younger. Gross generalizations are dangerous but he did teach me a certain tongue in cheek "respect" for German ideas of efficiency.
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November 14, 2006
Alone for the Holidays
In Canada, Thanksgiving, precedes Halloween, so that means we go straight from glow-in-dark plastic skeletons to wreaths, trees and lights in the stores. Our neighbors down south have one holiday hurdle before December 25 and that of course is the hugely popular American Thanksgiving.
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November 7, 2006
Superficial Wounds
I'm prone to only taking time alone when something rocks my vanity. Last year, for example, I locked myself out of my own apartment on the second floor and unwisely tried to break in, fell an entire storey and broke my pelvis. I spent seven weeks at home with much time to think in isolation.
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October 31, 2006
When the Moon Hits your Eye
A while ago, I signed up for a newsletter from some dude giving tips on picking up women. He selling a series of DVDs by giving a brief hint of his inside advice before providing testimonials from guys with apparently changed lives. Without giving away any of his valuable tips, to summarize his philosophy, to "score the ladies" it's best to be a jerk.
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October 24, 2006
Smoke Signals or Smokescreen?
A colleague at work bet me $100 that I couldn't last a month without smoking more than two cigarettes. It's tough but maybe not as difficult as I expected. Since it's suddenly become quite cold, I'm more than happy not to go outside for a smoke these days. I'm still waiting for the floodgates of new dates to open with my smoke-freeness.
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October 17, 2006
Online Dating - Wise Choice for Me
You might assume since I'm writing for a site about online dating that I have a definite positive bias towards the internet thing. However, I've always seen it as just one of many ways to meet someone, no better, no worse than the rest.
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October 11, 2006
A Nose By Any Other Name
I probably seem someone with few boundaries when it comes to revealing myriad details of my personal life, dear readers. However, I do have limits as to what I will share. Granted those walls around my private life may be slightly lower than most, allowing the occasional peek inside at my seemingly insecure interior.
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October 3, 2006
We Don't Know Why Kisses Don't Lie
We often make kissing out to be the most important physical exchange for a couple. Mates or dates may otherwise gratify us or be at least objectively desirable but bad kissers must go.
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September 26, 2006
Lest We Forget - Misery Loves Company
Memory is a funny thing. Sometimes when we discover something new that should shed light on a past event, we have a hard time letting go of how we remember things as happening.
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September 19, 2006
Losing a Loser is still a Loss
I recently met someone who seemed nice enough but everyone always does in the beginning. We hung out a couple of times after meeting at one of my favorite clubs. The second time when I arrived on the scene I noted my new prospect was overly flirtatious, dirty dancing not just with a few but a slew of fellows.
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September 12, 2006
The Value of being Vapid?
I just read a very convoluted theory about how pointless it was to concentrate on internal qualities to find more easily an ideal mate. I'm always amused when shallow pursuits are explained by complicated means.
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August 29, 2006
Change - Dating While Waiting for Motivation
I read the headline of a personal ad that said - Waiting for my new life to begin. I filed that person under 'codependent loser' but realized I react most strongly to other people's mistakes when they ring truest with my own. I shouldn't be throwing stones from inside my glass house.
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August 23, 2006
I Love the Freaks and the Freaks Love Me
I seem to attract the mentally unstable. The last person I dated was a textbook example of classic narcissist. It was someone who wasn't looking to have some things in common but everything exactly the same between us. Compliments, criticisms and even harsh judgments, in retrospect all came from one perspective, how I was in relation to this other's ego.
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July 12, 2006
Better Going Solo?
The French term for bachelor is "vieux garcon" translating literally to "old boy." It seems to imply single men becomes childish in old age with no one to please but themselves. I keep hoping someone special will save me from such a fate soon.
However, Dawn Yanek, in an article on MSN, has listed 10 reasons why it's better to stay single. In the original article, she lists scientific studies to support her points but as a counter-bitterness exercise I list why I disagree with her in most cases proving I'm not a vieux garcon yet.
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May 12, 2005
You Can Be A Star
As solutions go, on the whole I’ve been pretty satisfied
with online dating. I’ve had one or two relationships so far that worked
out pretty well after meeting online. Obviously, I haven’t met the one
so far, but I never met the “one” going to bars. Although, after
a few drinks I am more likely to be confused briefly into thinking it’s
the one when it’s really just the beer. I guess that’s what I consider
the advantage. Getting to someone in writing before actually meeting allows
you to soberly decide whether you think there’s a possibility for something
worthwhile. I also find myself talking to people who wouldn’t approach
me or whom I wouldn’t approach because of being shy or insecure, which
ironically are the ones that are most probably the most like me.
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May 11, 2005
Thoughts on Love and Life
I’ve often found that meeting people naturally doesn’t
happen naturally for me. I mean I make “friends” easily enough,
at least those co-workers, neighbours and coffee shop folks that populate that
vague level of friendship that lies somewhere between complete stranger and
best friend for life. I wouldn’t die for these people, but I do genuinely
feel concerned for their well being and feel the same in return. When it comes
to romantic connections, I find it isn’t so easy.
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