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ok... just one note.. not all woman that ride motorcycles have a "certain personality type". I ride... love to ride, BUT I am also a professional woman with a good job, education, great morals and values, a great group of friends...
I don't like that I am stereotyped because my passion is motorcycles and riding? Is it just because I am female? That sucks...

its interesting how you point out that most female motorcycle riders are Alpha Females...

do men really need that "girly girl" next door to feel like they wear pants in the relationship? ...and if a girl does ride, does that make her less feminine / more dominate?

as aggressive as some females can be on the road/track, sometimes even out riding their male counter parts, very few are the spit image of an aggressive Alpha Female/Tomboy... many of them just blend in with the mostly male crowd which sometimes judges them too harshly.. after all we still enjoy cuddling in bed on a RAINY day

in truth, to be able to share this passion with a soul mate is the ultimate experience and when matched up with your other half that enjoys it on the same level as you can prove to be rewarding in many ways...

"Do you know what you're looking for when it comes to romance?"

^ this seems to be the defining question that is shaping LOVE in the 21st century...

i believe our society has become so caught up in finding that 'perfect romance' we have forgotten what love is really about...

its not about the perfect dinner at the perfect time with the perfect person... it comes down to finding someone you can connect with on ALL levels... like you said Doug, finding 'THE ONE'...

even though finding the 1 in a population of 5 billion can sometimes feel like a fruitless search and the idea settling on someone slips into our minds occasionally - i still believe that with time the ying will find the yang.. BUT not always in the way we so 'perfectly' see fit...

that still does not answer the question - "Do i know what i am looking for in my partner...?"

YES! the list is endless...

will anyone come close to meeting all my wild expectations?
probably not and maybe that’s for the better since it is said that variety is the spice of life... and it might be the one thing i am missing in a romantic/mental/emotional way

SO as much as i think i have life and love figured out there is always another blind bend just beyond the hill that is begging to be ridden... SUPRISE ME!!

Thank you both for the comments! I have to take off the option to approve comments before they go live. Didn't know that was on.

First, Shelley:

I agree, it's wrong to judge someone based on a generalization, which I would never do, but I don't think it's wrong to generalize – at least not in general. ;) As I said, despite what we were ranting about on that walk, I never think twice about getting to know women riders. The point was that we were having a stupid chat about something that really wouldn't hold water outside of that conversation at that very moment. My point was that what did matter was that we were trying to identify characteristics in people we like to date. There's value in contemplating that -- wouldn’t you agree?

And Ginger, ahhh . . .cuddling on rainy days and out together on an open road on the sunny ones! THAT sounds a lot like heaven from where I sit! I know girly-girls that ride and I know tomboys, too. As I was saying above, riding doesn't make you anything – less feminine/more dominate. But I think the sport attracts MORE of a certain personality type. I know I don't fit the mould of most male bikers I know, but there are certain things that I do share -- like reckless regard for my welfare when flying down the road on two wheels at 200k/hr.

I date to find "THE" one. She may ride, she may knit or she might be a transgender ironworker from North Dakota (although in this case, I really hope not!). But if I don't have any idea of what I'm looking for, how will I, or anyone else who doesn't know, ever find it? Do you know what you're looking for when it comes to romance?

Seek that which is hidden. Look where others don't dare look. Smile and approach instead of walking away.

That "biker chick" might just have a streak of rebel in her. Perhaps she just loves to ride the wind.....either way I'm sure you'll find an interesting person on top of that bike.

From the hinter....

"That "biker chick" might just have a streak of rebel in her. Perhaps she just loves to ride the wind.....either way I'm sure you'll find an interesting person on top of that bike."

WELL SAID!

"its not about the perfect dinner at the perfect time with the perfect person"

No, it's subtle to be sure. I find people are in such a hurry to connect with someone, though, that they don't even make an effort to seek the perfect (fill in the blank) and instead settle. I may be single for the rest of my life - I know that. But I'd rather do that then "settle."

"Smile and approach instead of walking away."

Such good advice. So hard to follow, though!

Its sad that guys stereotype women like that. Im a middle aged female, who never works out. I also have a bunch of tattoos, to add to the stereotypical conclusions that people tend to come to about me. I work with the elderly and disabled, and my colleagues think its hilarious to call me 'biker chick'. Im rather traditional in most respects, I ride because its fun, the other advantage being that its cheaper than driving. Oh, I knit too.

You ride AND knit? That's it--we're getting married! ;)

Okay, Doug, Im all yours!