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May 12, 2005
You Can Be A Star
As solutions go, on the whole I’ve been pretty satisfied
with online dating. I’ve had one or two relationships so far that worked
out pretty well after meeting online. Obviously, I haven’t met the one
so far, but I never met the “one” going to bars. Although, after
a few drinks I am more likely to be confused briefly into thinking it’s
the one when it’s really just the beer. I guess that’s what I consider
the advantage. Getting to someone in writing before actually meeting allows
you to soberly decide whether you think there’s a possibility for something
worthwhile. I also find myself talking to people who wouldn’t approach
me or whom I wouldn’t approach because of being shy or insecure, which
ironically are the ones that are most probably the most like me.
One unforeseen opportunity arising from posting a profile online is that sometimes when I do go to bars; random people come up because they feel like they know me because they saw my description online. It’s kind of fun, it makes me feel like one of those products they mark “As Seen On TV”. Perhaps my feeling of self-worth is slightly warped but I take a certain pride as being recognized as my own Internet name brand. Like a personals website celebrity.
A few times, it’s actually been the start of an interesting conversation since people often seem compelled to tell you what I thought of your picture and what you wrote as description. Thankfully, although I am no supermodel, at least I’m not one of those unfortunate folks who are noticeably more photogenic than realistically attractive. Most of what I heard was good and some of what I heard, well, I’m a gentleman so I won’t repeat it. Let’s just say the exposure has done me no harm.
Just think you too could be famous!
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at May 12, 2005 7:19 PM
Comments
It's nice to be recognized. It's nice to get attention. It's also well documented that stars attract both good and bad attention. I've had good and bad relationships that started online. It's kinda funny looking back on everything and for the most part I ran into the same percentage of wackos both on and offline. It's nice to be able to communicate with all these different folks and learn about them. I have friends that I frankly can't get by without that I met online. I just have one word of warning......watch for wackos!
I say that because chances are if you were recognized offline by someone online, there is a chance that someone not entirely desirable might recognize you also. You may end up with a squad of hopelessly obsessed wackos following you around. Be aware, and be careful. I try never to enter a situation unless there is a good chance of leaving it without bodily harm. Neutral public places with a crowd are the norm. I also never make it possible for someone to recognize me by my profile by chance. I control who sees my photo, and if someone is so wrapped up in looks that they won't even read my profile without it then they can take a walk. Remember: Souls communicate. Bodies lure. Find the soul that communicates, then take a chance on peeking at the body. If the body is acceptable also then you're headed somewhere!
Just some advice from the helpful hinter....
Posted by: hinter at May 20, 2005 8:08 AM
